8 Evidence-Based Tips that Helped Me Find Love

Checklists may hinder finding a life partner.

Avoid rigid checklists when seeking a partner as they often prioritize short-term qualities over long-term compatibility.

Overcome the hesitator mindset to start dating.

Bridge the intention-action gap by setting deadlines, doing preparation work, and reinforcing your dating identity.

Avoid turning dates into job interviews.

Opt for experiential dates where activities foster connection over traditional interview-style interactions.

Prioritize ending dates positively for lasting impressions.

Apply the peak end rule by ensuring dates end on a high note to leave a memorable and positive impression.

Implement the second date rule to reduce first date pressure.

Consider first dates as a warm-up round, assuming a second date pending no major issues, allowing for better assessment over time.

Engage in experiential dating rather than evaluative.

Focus on experiencing the moment and how the person makes you feel rather than evaluating them against a checklist.

Identifying energy-draining relationships is crucial for personal well-being.

Distinguishing between people who energize versus drain one's energy is vital in maintaining positive relationships and personal vitality.

Dating should be approached as an experiment for self-discovery.

Viewing dating as an experiment helps in learning about oneself rather than just the other person, fostering growth and self-awareness.